Why Middle School Mentorship Matters More Than You Think

When Michelle Cho first joined Apex for Youth, she was simply looking for a way to give back, specifically to connect with Asian youth in New York City. What she didn’t expect was to find a second home: a vibrant, mission-driven community of volunteers and staff who inspired her to keep showing up week after week.

That consistency has made all the difference.

Finding a Mission and a Community

Michelle has been volunteering with Apex for four years; first in the elementary program in Sunset Park, and now in the Middle School Mentoring Program (MSMP). She also serves as the Marketing Chair on our Associate Board, leading efforts to grow Apex’s volunteer network and community reach. 

Michelle and her mentee, “Little Michelle,” first met during a virtual session when her mentee was still in elementary school. Over the years, the two Michelles built a deep connection, bonding over shared experiences as the only girls raised in strict Asian households, supporting one another through creative projects, and growing into more confident versions of themselves.

“It’s been a series of small moments,” Michelle says. “Watching her grow and become more confident has been the most rewarding part. She even inspires me.”

Together, they explored everything from fashion design to public speaking. When her mentee expressed a desire to design suits, Michelle didn’t blink. She brought fashion magazines, visited fabric stores, and eventually helped her mentee build a portfolio for an art camp she is attending this summer. 

Stephanie Loui, MSMP’s Brooklyn Program Manager, saw this bond grow firsthand.

“Since they met, I have watched Michelle navigate an inspirational balance of leading and following, pushing and supporting, both witnessing and helping her mentee to grow into her confidence and skills. Michelle not only supports her mentee but also others around her, serving as a role model and group leader. This summer, with Michelle’s help, little Michelle will be attending a art camp, pursuing her love of art. This is just one example of how Michelle pays close attention to her mentees’ interests and aspirations, stepping up to provide the support and care where she is needed most.” 

The relationship hits close to home. As the only girl with two brothers from a strict Asian household, Michelle sees reflections of her upbringing in her mentee, which makes their connection even more meaningful.

“I often find myself thinking, ‘Wow, this is exactly how I felt at that age.’”

Michelle’s Advice for New Volunteers

To Michelle, mentorship is a way to provide the support she wishes she had when she was younger, someone outside the family who just listens. And in doing so, she’s not only helped her mentee thrive, but found a sense of purpose and belonging herself.

“Volunteering isn’t always easy,” Michelle reflects. “But if you keep showing up, the kids will remember you. They’ll come to you when they need someone. Just be present, that’s the most important thing.”

She even made hour-long commutes from Manhattan to Brooklyn, a commitment she never questioned. “It was 100% worth it,” she says. “I always tell new volunteers that it’s worth the time and effort.”

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